Doing Things Right In Matters of the Heart 2

This is the first of the aforementioned series of post that will focus on an excerpt or idea from each chapter of John Ensor's exceptional book concerning biblical manhood and womanhood in relation to marriage entitled, Doing Things Right In Matters of the Heart.

Chapter 1 is bacially an introduction and overview of the book and so we will start with Chapter 2.

Chapter 2: What the Heart Wants

Commenting on what women really want:

“There’s no doubt that young women are being taught today to be sexually aggressive and to expect many partners. Modesty and restraint are considered signs of obsequious surrender to a foregone age of sexual repression. The strong woman is one who takes responsibility for her own body and who is smart enough to know how to use it. If she is good at it, it is assumed that she will have many partners. Women can and do get to this point. But this is not what they are by nature. This was not their starting point, only their settling point. Blow away the ash, and the ember yet burns for a healthy, tender, passionate, enduring, mutually satisfying relationship with just one man.”

Commenting on what men really want:

We must make a distinction between what the culture assumes we all want and teaches us to want, and what we really want. We must make a distinction between what we thought we wanted, merely to please others, and what we are truly designed to want. We must make a distinction between what we want as sinners in a sinful world, and what we want as men made in the image of God for great purpose.”

Summarizing what men and women both really want in regards to relationships:

“Women want a healthy, tender, passionate, enduring, mutually satisfying relationship with a good man. And men want the same with a good woman.”